NCSPP

Northern California Society for Psychoanalytic Psychology

From the Editor

by Shlomit Gorin, MA
 
Here we are again -- another year behind us, we encounter the beginning of a new one. It is tempting to mark this time as a tabula rasa, to try to shed the scaly parts of the skin that holds us, and to make promises to ourselves and to others that we will be better. We will start, stop, cut down on, increase, finish. We know we said that last year, but this year is different; this will be the year.
 
Change requires desire, and the new year is often a time when we negotiate our desires. We may hear our patients assessing their accomplishments and setbacks over the past year and expressing their wishes, hopes, and fears for the year that lies ahead. We may do the same. Given this, it may be a time to pay particular attention to the distinction between what we want and what we think we should want in the context of what we have. As Lenny Bruce stated, "There is only what is and that's it. What should be is a dirty lie."
 
Here's to trashing our dirty lies in 2016.